I rarely dream. I listen to friends who do dream and wish that I did. They always have so much fun, and if we were inclined to do so, we could spend ages unpicking them to find meaning. Sometimes we do, like recently my friend dreamed that she was looking for her Prince Charming. He's over there, someone said, up in the maths tower which you have to climb. My friend has a memory of swinging in through the window of this maths tower on a vine (like Tarzan) instead, so she didn't have to climb it at all. She did not say anything about Prince Charming inside so perhaps he had dived out of one window as she was swinging in through the other. Wonderful. We couldn't work out what any of that meant, so perhaps we will wait for her next dream and try again. I am told that I do actually dream, everyone does, but that I do not remember them. Possibly because I wake a lot in the night and they don't have time to really get going, or because what deep sleep I do have crams them all in and my brain explodes. I really do not know, and perhaps you can put me right on this.
Night time used to be a fearful place for me. Many years ago I did not sleep well, and did not want to face the darkness. There was something about the long quiet dark hours of the night in which I could not escape from my own thoughts that made me try and avoid it. I would resist going to bed, resist going to sleep, and keep the radio on to help me. To lie down and stay still, to know that all the chattering in my mind would be louder and louder in the quietness, and to feel the anxiety in my stomach in the early hours when I woke after only a small amount of sleep, made life very difficult. I did sort it out after many years and in the end, and it was quite simple. Mostly, it was a decision to stop dreading the night, and to have a proper bed time and wake time. I read a good book about sleep, put their recommendations into practice, and the long dark scary nights began to recede. I love my night times now. I sleep very well in my own way, and don't worry about it if I don't. But still, I do not remember my dreams.
My life is full of meaning. The work I do, the people I meet and the places I go means that I am often concentrating hard on what the outcomes are. Much of what I do is about energy and energies which includes healing work, listening work and creative work. It can be very intense - it is intense - which is why it works. The deeper and more difficult things in our lives take time, focus and energy to deal with and when I am working with someone, I use love and kindness alongside time, focus and energy, and it draws on resources we forget we have. Sometimes, my work is an encounter with someone out of the blue, and I may not know who they are or what their name is but we encounter each other and for the time we spend together, there is an exchange of healing and experience.
When I go to London, I carry loose change so that I can give it to whoever asks for it. One time, a very misshapen young man, obviously not right in the head, left his cardboard box and beckoned me over. Would I go into the coffee shop and get him a sandwich and a coffee? With sugar? I did so, and while I was buying it, he wandered in looking filthy and strange. I feared the coffee shop owner would refuse to sell to me if it were for this man, everyone stopped and looked at him. But the coffee shop owner gave me a smile and said that as it was for this man, who he addressed by name, he must have cake too. Apparently this young man is often in the shop, and the owner loves it when people listen to him and buy him what he asks for. When they don't the owner gives him the food anyway. The young man and I left the shop, he asking me to come back another day, and buy him some more. The healing here was through the coffee shop owner, and the experience was for me. The vehicle was the dishevelled young man.
So, my dream. I dreamed that I was in a dark, black place, so dark that it was impossible to describe. The blackness had a texture to it, like velvet. It was not a frightening place at all, despite the deeper than dark darkness. I had a person, that was neither alive nor dead, and in the darkness I had to lift this heavy body and put it back into its soul. It was hard work, and I struggled to manage the weight of the body with me, and I remember thinking that I had no idea what a soul looked like, or where to find one. At that moment, to my left, a ball of light appeared which was so bright, so light and so beautiful that it took my breath away. It was flat, not spherical, and in the centre was so much love and I knew that this was the soul I was looking for. But I also understood that this amazing light was looking out for me too. Somehow, I raised the figure above my head and into the soul and as I did so, I knew the figure that I was carrying was that of my son who has so many troubles. In the distance I began to see other lights appearing, and I knew all was well.
|Finding the soul and it finding me.|
When I woke, I was filled with the beauty of this light, the feeling of peace after the body and soul were united, and the memory of the incredible blackness in which I was struggling to lift this body. Days later, I am still in awe of the whole dream and keep coming back to the light. I like to dwell on the power of this and feel the most important part of the whole dream is that the soul light, though it belonged to someone else, was magnificently looking after and out for, me too. Wow.
Of course, it was a dream. But it felt more than a dream. It felt like something hopeful, something wonderful, something beyond me. I am reassured, inspired and relieved by it. We struggle along in our lives, and many of us feel we are alone especially when things seem never to improve. Life can be so relentless and lonely, and at times, we long for reassurance that we are not wasting our time, that doing our best will pay off, that somehow things will get better. Even those of us with a faith of sorts can feel abandoned. It is hard work, when the going gets tough. I do have a faith and I do believe in a God of love and kindness. I do think there is a purpose to life and that if we can remember it, we are not alone. Of course, we don't always remember it, how can we? We are only human and sometimes it feels like we blinking well are alone. But this dream came to me when I needed something to reconnect me with hope, and I think it was a spiritual experience in a dream. So much so that I have tried to paint the experience, which when I was doing it, boiled down to two colours, black and white. But I did paint it and used Prussian Blue and Paynes Grey for the darkness, because those are luminous and there is depth to them whereas black is matt and flat. My head is painted in matt flat black which shows up against the depth of the blue and grey, if you look carefully.
I went to see my son and decided to tell him. I showed him a photo of the painting, and he liked it. There is always a chance that when one talks of a dream experience like this, that it will not be taken seriously and dismissed as nonsense. My son was quite taken with it, and I am glad. Since I had to raise him above my head into his soul again, and he was jolly heavy, it was the least he could do. Ha ha.
Post script - a dream experience like this does not necessarily change things in the world. It would be wonderful to think that suddenly all is well, and that we are all healed. We live our lives as we choose, and our stories are our own, even if we feel they are not. Life is nothing if not an ongoing, extraordinary, painful and joyful series of lessons, experiences, losses, gains and understandings. A dream like this, though I describe it as a spiritual experience inside a dream, is for me and I take from it that I, and my son, are not alone. I take from it a feeling of comfort and connection that is beyond what I normally experience, and a knowing that the whole of existence is vaster and more intense than I could possibly know in my day to day life. I like this, and it helps me accept a bit more what I cannot change.
|Light is everywhere, even when we cannot see it, which is most of the time.|
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